I'm a sucker for happy endings
But we don't always get our happy endings
For those who don't know, I'm not a big fan of movies. I have a couple of series that I keep up with from time to time, but I can definitely live without them.
The other day, I was watching a movie, and it was the usual cliché. I was hoping they would get a happy ending, which they did. Did they? Well, their happy ending didn't last long, and then it turned into a not-so-happy ending. I wanted to cry, but fortunately, the tears didn't come.
Make I come dey cry on top film, wetin go do my steeze?
Now, deep inside me, there's that 10-year-old stuck in front of our TV, watching Barbie in all different parts, get her happy ending. And even though I've been exposed to the harsh reality of the world, that 10-year-old still believes in happy endings and hopes she gets one. This isn't the 10-year-old me stuck in La La Land writing to you; this is the double-the-age, realistic me writing to you.
Maybe not everyone gets the happy ending, and even though I subscribe to the idea of claiming the things we want, I still subscribe to the idea that life isn't a fairy tale, and not everyone will get that 'happy ending.' So, for a moment, let's keep the whole dreams aside and answer the question, 'What if I don't get my happy ending?' Well, you, my dear, would have to create it.
Happiness is what we define it to be, and I understand that society has a construct that you can only be happy when you fit into social standards - I mean, a good partner, two kids of opposite gender, a fancy house, a car, and a trip once a year. Really good things, but don't let the world define your happiness. If your happiness is in getting that one person to smile or taking your favorite drink, then so be it.
Similarly, don't let people define what a happy ending is for you. If a happy ending is you achieving the dreams little you had, and it stops there, then that's it. There's no 'what if I don't get a happy ending?' Because you're not bound by social standards. You define what is and what isn't. I'm rooting for you, and I know you'll get your happy ending.
Love,