I Failed In January!

Today, the first month of the year wraps up and so far I've not been doing the best job at handling the year. Guess I could say I failed.

Before we continue, I'd like you to understand that failure is subjective and we all have different versions and perceptions of what failure means to us.

Now, just like many others, I started this year with high hopes. I had plans (or I thought I did), I was setting goals left and right and I even had a goal tracker.

It is said that the note on which you start your day, week, month, or year, would determine how much you would achieve for the rest of it.

Motivational speakers😭

Anyway, I started to push myself, well, harder than ever, and slowly I realized it was not the best thing to do.

But it was too late...

At that point, I had already worked my body so hard it was requiring rest. So, I fell sick. Nothing too serious, I was down for a few days but for someone that rarely fell sick, it was a big deal.

Now, with trying to outdo myself, I lost something by not resting, I had to cut down on certain things and in a way, I should have felt like I failed.

But...

Back to failure being subjective, failure is just a label that we give to something when we are attached to a specific result or outcome of what we perceive to be success.

Now, if we changed our definition of success we may just realize that we never failed in the first place.

Thomas Edison once stated: “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

For me, I have not failed. Although, I have not achieved some of what I plan to but I define what I want success to look like and not what every other person expects. So, I can't really fail if my expectations are met.

Rather, like Edison, I have only found one way that wouldn't work and I have 11 months of 2023 to find others that would.

Just like me, you're probably beating yourself up over the fact that your year is not starting as you planned. Welcome to the real world.

Life is more than goals on paper and apps, there would be challenges along the way, and as long as your picture of success is not another person's picture; then you are not failing.

Besides, there is more than enough time for you to start again, don't allow motivational speakers to stress you with the "11 months to 2024, what have you achieved so far?".

No prejure me abeg

Calm down, breathe, eat, work at your own pace, and remember to rest.

Love Always,

Ayo🤍

PS: I'm sorry for not writing sooner. I promise, I've written more to you in my head than here.

I'll continue to try to write more to you.

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